The One True Scotsman Is Polyamorous, Apparently | Ferrett Steinmetz

http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2015/01/the-one-true-scotsman-is-polyamorous-apparently/

Quite enjoyed this read.  Please do have a read and if you want to comment, feel free to do so.

Love many…because you can…if you want.

Shane

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First member down…

Had to happen I know but we lost our first member yesterday. The person had only joined the night previous.

Am mostly ok with it as I well understand that poly challenges quite a chunk of what we have all been indoctrinated to believe is the truth and nothing but.

What I am upset with is that the member didn’t try to communicate with any of us in the group as to WHY it wasn’t for them.

That information could have helped the group or maybe not but it would have been nice to have had a comment made on the blog at the very least so everyone knew where they stood.

Anyway, it’s done with now so we move on hopefully with slow and sustainable growth of the group.

Communication….such a powerful word that seems to be treated so poorly by so many.

And that’s what we in Peninsula Poly hope to change, at least within our group.

So, till then wonderful human beings?
Love many,

Shane

The Poly Times – 2nd Edition

Evening all,

Attended a lovely Meetup earlier on with the lovely Amanda.
We are officially a physical group of 3 now but virtually are 10.

So things are starting to build and that truly is a beautiful thing.

On Amanda ‘ s suggestion have decided to advertise on Fetlife and also via Facebook via a poly page she knows of.

Other ideas that came forward today were a picnic at some stage, a meal somewhere and potentially other meets so people can get to know each other.

As I have stated to Suzie and also Amanda, definitely welcome members posting on this blog when inspiration strikes so we can learn and grow from your experiences.

Anyway that’s this little update done with for now.

Get your loving of many on peeps,

Shane

Sexual omnivores?

Are we designed to be sexual omnivores? http://t.co/cZ5AGxE0cc

Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethra wrote a book called ” Sex At Dawn” a few years back.

It’s a great book and whilst I haven’t read it all I do recommend it to anyone interested in human sexuality as I am.

The TED talk above is by Mr Ryan and is great appetite wetting video that might see you venturing further into the book as I have.

Anyway, have a look and make your own mind up.
And if you want to make contact please leave a comment or if you are in the area drop by a Meetup.

I’m attending a Meetup with Peninsula Polyamory and Open Relationships Meetup http://meetu.ps/2CmmTj

Until then fine homosapiens,
Love many,

Shane

Jealousy.

@hlpleasurecoach: Zen and the Art of Dealing with #Jealousy http://t.co/AFhD4KGlBn

Ahh yes…the green-eyed monster that will take your rational mind from you in a matter of seconds and potentially put you in all matter of strife.

What to do?

Some good advice in the link above but for mine I think age and experience is the best weapon that arms you sufficiently such you will be able to stop and breathe and put those wonderful cortexes into gear.

Just saves one from having to step back after and acknowledge idiocy, not to mention the collateral damage that might have been done to others you love.

The minefield of life is always around…just waiting for a slip up.

But until you find yourself there again,

Please, try to love many,
Shane

So why form a polyamory group anyway?

I have asked myself this but I figure it’s high time alternatives to the version of marriage I have seen start to find a place of their own to exist.

I wrote previously on marriage and my respect for the word but that is where it ends.

Yes it works well for some but in all honesty I would love to see the truth on those marriages and why they work because I think you would find a similar type of arrangement one might see in a great poly relationship(s).

There is nothing worse in my opinion than not having the courage to speak up for your own needs and instead sneak around behind your beloveds back.

That is the primary reason why poly may never really take hold because honesty is hard work and just like democracy and teamwork are works in progress that never really reach a conclusion.

That doesn’t mean for one second that one should just accept the status quo and get on with being a sheep.  Quite the contrary really.  At least that is what I think.

It takes courage to believe in something like polyamory and I do because in my opinion it reeks of sense.

So if you want to expand your mind and educate yourself out of the flock you can’t do much worse than pick up the book that changed it all for me.

Then maybe you will drop by our little group and who knows what will happen then…but that’s half the fun!

Until that time, please,
Love many,

Shane