I disagree with this….

Why, you may ask?

Let’s explore the statement;

“Men are born to pursue women”. Are we?

I think this is utter garbage. Furthermore, I think this statement and the justification following is a relic of history even now and will continue to erode further the more gender equal we get.


Keep loving like there is no tomorrow.



Sex for rent: the rogue landlords who offer free rooms in return for ‘favours’

Update, June 2019. Still not completely happy with the flow of this one but will leave it up and further improve it over time.

Found in The Guardian – “Sex for rent: the rogue landlords who offer free rooms in return for ‘favours’”


Good journalism to uncover this issue, but I want to dig deeper.

Why is this the case? And what is the initial “why” (I thought about saying root-cause, but not even I am that tacky!)?

For mine that why is SEX.

My gut feeling embodying a number of “heard it here or read it there” feels tells me Men have been doing this since the dawn of time, which in no way, shape or form should be condoned, but lately it has become enough of a thing at the right frequency to attract further attention.

For me, it just further highlights the disconnects between men & women that few ever think about, will discuss or ever admit. I hope articles such as this one direct those conversations a little more and put us on a path to reconciling some of the gaping holes in human sexuality.

In the long term, the way I see this subject evolving is with women finding further societal equality and the continued wholesale rejection of old school learnt ways essentially not needing men the way they do now. We are already seeing this on the fringes with relationship models (that have been around forever as the minnow models) slowly coming into their own.

As an FYI, the most recent census reported another minor rise in those identifying as living in a single person household. No decrease is telling.


Technology will provide women with the ability and choice of satisfying their reproductive desires with another woman or women and support networks, as just one example of many potential options available.

Men in the short term will continue to satisfy their sexual urges via prostitution and then via artificial intelligence (AI) in the longer term with crossovers between the sexes as necessary to bring satisfaction to those individuals of both genders outside the ‘normal’ range of sexuality, which may or may not be a thing but it’s the best I have to describe how I see things at this time.

Marriage won’t die off but will be like long player (LP) records. A novelty that some swear by.

Then there will those who will be content to just hang together and share their life with another, equally and fully. Dig!

It’s been interesting growing up at the end of free love and seeing it morph into numerous relationship forms once I was old enough to understand them. Changes that I hope brings a slightly better world one day.

Peace to y’all.


Home Truths…Sex & power.

I write this wondering if and when men and women will genuinely start having a meaning discussion about sexuality and the power it wields?

It sex the elephant in the room that very few people ever acknowledge and/or walk a mile to understand?

Or is it all about power? I am not the first to be confused how these two subjects intertwine and weave between the genders.

Currently Hollywood is going into meltdown with many sexual harassment cases rearing their ugly heads, and about time too, but I genuinely do wonder where we are heading as two genders whom have traditionally sought out each other, until death do us part.

The key point that I would contend so many people gloss over is that both genders really have no idea of what life is like as the opposite sex. Many like to think they have it all worked out but really, unless you have been there or have made a concerted effort to walk that mile, you really have no factual basis and thus no clue.

I am strongly of the opinion that education has to lead the way on both of these subjects, and it possibly is, as magnificent teachers all across the world do their little bit to educate balanced young men & women in turn hopefully creating a better society that in turn creates better humans also.

It makes for interesting times as always and great debate with those who are interested in such things.

And there’s my grab-bag of thoughts for now.



Ignorance is bliss….so very true.

Ending 2017…way points.

SSM got up…finally. The conservatives in the LNP coalition, a few Catholic arch bishop’s, dear Lyle Shelton with his merry bunch of Christians and last but not least that wonderful NOT Murdoch rag in The Australian (that speaks for a third of us at best…go figure?), gave the NO case a good crack but their argument was piss-poor and in the end weight of numbers (and sense) spoke volumes.

#metoo – men got to feel the rage of numerous years of power misuse across a lot of professions. Unfortunately, in the finest traditions of the shhh….don’t talk about sex brain imprint that functions with aplomb in the overwhelming majority of us, we won’t get anywhere fast with on sexual harassment in Australian society anytime soon.

I expect 2018 to be just as bad if not worse.

Polyamory lost its momentum in Victoria with PolyVIC shutting down. Sad that it never got the support it deserves but we are pretty well institutionalised here in Australia through 200+ years of marriage, affairs & divorce and unfortunately are happy to accept the happy times, arguments and other collateral damage as the norm.


I read another magnificent book called ” What Love Is, And What It Could Be” by Carrie Jenkins. A must read if the subject of human relationships and sexuality intrigues you.

And lastly, and to end on a happy note, I am pulling my weight in the gender wars by employing a 50/50 split so big-up’s to moi!

Happy New Year y’all.


Experts: Sex and porn addiction probably aren’t real mental disorders | SBS Sexuality


This is a good step forward for human sexuality. Please read and discuss widely in the hope that via weight of numbers, those who seek to profit from “yet another” purported disease in the long line of supposed human frailties get ran out of town for good.


The Slutski

Truths from the sexual front line.

@kittystryker: Bree Olson says some harsh truths about what it’s like leaving the porn industry for a civilian job http://bit.ly/1UNeCiX via @dailydot

More colateral damage from an industry that seeks firstly to exploit the male sex drive generally speaking.  But in doing so it exploits women, Bree being one of the many who have either willingly left or are the detritus spat from the rear end of said industry.

How did conservatism engulf human sexuality?  We seriously need some balance with sex.  

Yet another thing to ponder in this crazy life of which I have but a few answers.

Maybe PJ has some thoughts…

Ending 2016, where I’m at….

Frankly still all over the shop but I have clarity on the points below.

1. Marriage (traditional) should not be the default relationship proposition in 2016.

2. We need action on equality. It’s not good enough to take the position that it will happen in its own good time. Women are being killed every week (60 so far) and kids are growing up to further create problems for society at large as the end result of this and other carnage.

3. We need more conversation regards sex. Currently men barely talk about it and less so between women & men unless there is mutual interest. No one should be forced into having sex but something has to give in our overly conservative society.

4. Same-Sex marriage must happen. The sooner the better.

5. And I would love to see the end of prostitution. Its always been the stopgap measure for a society that is unwilling to confront it’s sexual side and frankly it’s got to with the exception of those such as the mentally disabled and elderly who no longer have the means to seek out sexual pleasure.

And that will about do me for tonight. I intend to keep typing blogs in the short term anyway as interesting topics come to hand in the hope that mine and maybe one or two of the subjects in your conversational headspace are bolstered by what I write & link.

I present, the lovely Meshell Ndegecello.



More Than Two.

Wow…this is just what I needed right now.  Thank you karma.

I have been struggling of late as the more astute of you have possibly read between the lines.

This book has renewed my hope and has bought me back to the day I read The Ethical Slut and considered it the most sensible thing I had read on relationships in 38 years on the planet. 

If there is one thing this book has confirmed for me, is that yes, I am a Polyamorous person who values trust, respect, compassion and isn’t afraid of disgussing needs.

Whyou do I love poly?  Because I love people who value community and who can see that our current relationship default was certainly not meant for everyone although it is definitely marketed that way. 

I highly recommend this book to anyone who has walked the roads and seen the carnage of broken relationships that litter it.

There is a better way for those who cherish joy and happiness.  It won’t be easy but life was never meant to be.

Live and love like there’s no tomorrow.


Watch “Monogamish: The new rules of marriage | Jessica O’Reilly | TEDxVancouver” on YouTube

Tighten up this word in your vocabulary via the TED talk above.  The lady speaks the truth as far as I am concerned. 

This just strengthens my resolve on what I feel should be a fact of life, “that human relationships were never meant to be happy ever after”.  It’s always been about the luck of the draw and what each other is willing to put in.

Monogamish, Polyamorous & same-sex relationships are here to stay folks and that dear reader can only be good for humanity.
Love like there be no tomorrow